As far as my observation goes in Canada many young girls and boys live as boy friends and girl friends, it does not go beyond that. Even though they get married it doesn’t last long. So I do wish my children should get married to desis who were migrated like us.
In spite of this if my children decide to marry some one outside the race I will not object because it is their life.

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Hmm... I see there's a great deal of hostility going on with this thread...

I suppose people mostly stick to their own race, mainly because the "american" (Western) women don't exactly portray the epitome of a perfect spouse/marriage. With the highest divorce rate in the world, and watching many, many guys getting screwed in divorce court, many more men have turned towards other ethnicities. And the ones who are from a different origin to begin with have decided to stick to their own kind to be on the safe side. All the feminist propaganda b.s being fed to the american public has a LOT to do with it. I'm not saying that women should have no rights, etc. But when feminazism goes so far as to hoot n' toot that women should seek rich men cuz they deserve them, etc... well that definitely puts a strain on the guys.

As for desi girls who are not dating their own race, it's mostly cuz the guys will look at a desi woman who dates, as a "slut". Somebody please explain to me why that is...

And as for me, well when I am to have kids, I'd just want them to make a sound decision when it comes to choosing a life partner, whoever it maybe. And if there are going to be kids involved (in the future or at present), this had better be a one helluva sound decision.

I am repeating again what i said earlier thjat it does not matter if you like it or don't like it.

Your kids will do what they want to do and you will not be able to say anything. This is Canada not India.

So just grin and bear what they do after they are 18 yrs old.

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MadammeX you are wrong on so many levels, I don't know even where to begin!! You have absolutely no factual basis for a single one of the claims you made below and if you claim to have facts, i'd like to see your references.

1. There's hostility on this thread because our community likes to insult and demean anyone born in Canada including the desis born here. Ergo, the term commonly used all over this site bccd - born in canada, confused desi.

2. "american" women are no better or worse spouses than women anywhere else in this world including "american" desi women.

3. most men are "screwed in court" (desi or not) because they are irresponsible assholes who refuse to take responsibility for their children.

4. some white guys who turn to new immigrants sometimes do so because they know that they are more likely to get away with physical and emotional abuse because the women don't know the system and don't know how to protect themselves. they don't "turn to other ethnicities" because they think they'll find a better wife.

white guys who date other ethnicities in this day and age do so simply because they happen to like the woman and her ethnicity is likely not a factor.

5. the "feminist propaganda" you sneer at was part of the civil rights movement in this country which also by the way, was part of the movement to give Indians the right to vote, a right which we didn't have until the 1940s despite the fact that we have been here as a community since 1908. and for your information desis, like white women, were also banned from and had to fight for the right to join the professions (law, engineering, medical, etc.)

6. some guys treat women like sluts if they behave like sluts. other guys treat all women like sluts until those women make it clear they are not. they're usually pretty consistent in this behaviour no matter what nationality the woman has. and in my experience, desi men are far worse than white men when it comes to treating desi women who date like sluts.

7. feminism has never advocated this: "But when feminazism goes so far as to hoot n' toot that women should seek rich men cuz they deserve them, etc... well that definitely puts a strain on the guys. " This comment is nothing short of ridiculous.

you have no concept whatsoever (typical of our community here) of what a canadian is, what canadians think or feel, and have completely misunderstood canadian culture.

i'd suggest you make some canadian friends, but because most desis don't have a clue you'll probably hook up with some white trash and then claim that you were proven right! this is also typical of our community!

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Hmm... I see there's a great deal of hostility going on with this thread...

I suppose people mostly stick to their own race, mainly because the "american" (Western) women don't exactly portray the epitome of a perfect spouse/marriage. With the highest divorce rate in the world, and watching many, many guys getting screwed in divorce court, many more men have turned towards other ethnicities. And the ones who are from a different origin to begin with have decided to stick to their own kind to be on the safe side. All the feminist propaganda b.s being fed to the american public has a LOT to do with it. I'm not saying that women should have no rights, etc. But when feminazism goes so far as to hoot n' toot that women should seek rich men cuz they deserve them, etc... well that definitely puts a strain on the guys.

As for desi girls who are not dating their own race, it's mostly cuz the guys will look at a desi woman who dates, as a "slut". Somebody please explain to me why that is...

And as for me, well when I am to have kids, I'd just want them to make a sound decision when it comes to choosing a life partner, whoever it maybe. And if there are going to be kids involved (in the future or at present), this had better be a one helluva sound decision.

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FACTS:

there are Desi marriage that don't last long as well.

there are Desis who are married and having affairs.

there are mixed marriages that have lasted the couples life times, some, but not all which started out as living together.

everyone, white canadians included, wants their children to marry someone good and wants the marriage to last a life time. this isn't news to anyone!

marrying a Desi doesn't guarantee a good marriage, or even a long lasting one.

you are simply spewing the standard racist stereotype that's held by many people in our community, and which i find so objectionable and insulting!

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As far as my observation goes in Canada many young girls and boys live as boy friends and girl friends, it does not go beyond that. Even though they get married it doesn’t last long. So I do wish my children should get married to desis who were migrated like us.
In spite of this if my children decide to marry some one outside the race I will not object because it is their life.

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FACTS:

there are Desi marriage that don't last long as well.

there are Desis who are married and having affairs.

there are mixed marriages that have lasted the couples life times, some, but not all which started out as living together.

everyone, white canadians included, wants their children to marry someone good and wants the marriage to last a life time. this isn't news to anyone!

marrying a Desi doesn't guarantee a good marriage, or even a long lasting one.

you are simply spewing the standard racist stereotype that's held by many people in our community, and which i find so objectionable and insulting!

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As far as my observation goes in Canada many young girls and boys live as boy friends and girl friends, it does not go beyond that. Even though they get married it doesn’t last long. So I do wish my children should get married to desis who were migrated like us.
In spite of this if my children decide to marry some one outside the race I will not object because it is their life.

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being a canadian desi doesn't make me stupid, so yes, i'm with you.

the positive desi+desi probability factor only applies when both desis are immigrants, and only under certain circumstances like arranged marriages.

the reality is that the only reason that the divorce rate is low in our community is because there is so much social pressure to remain married no matter how miserable or devastating the circumstances. this is damaging to both the partners and the children involved, and not a good thing.

suggest you rework your calculations because they are misleading and suck.

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FACTS:

there are Desi marriage that don't last long as well.

there are Desis who are married and having affairs.

there are mixed marriages that have lasted the couples life times, some, but not all which started out as living together.

everyone, white canadians included, wants their children to marry someone good and wants the marriage to last a life time. this isn't news to anyone!

marrying a Desi doesn't guarantee a good marriage, or even a long lasting one.

you are simply spewing the standard racist stereotype that's held by many people in our community, and which i find so objectionable and insulting!

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Orginally posted by nmt

As far as my observation goes in Canada many young girls and boys live as boy friends and girl friends, it does not go beyond that. Even though they get married it doesn’t last long. So I do wish my children should get married to desis who were migrated like us.
In spite of this if my children decide to marry some one outside the race I will not object because it is their life.

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When it comes to uncertainity, a person would follow probability. So probability of marriage failure or marriage survival is high will be considered. Being a desi girl does not work as a qualification BUT a desi + desi marriage working good has a good probability makes it a qualification. Argument of desi girl / boy being a marriage maker and phoren girl / boy being a marriage breaker is absolutely wrong. Are you still with me????

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