Isn't human nature to mingle with like minded people? If in your community you have 10 desis and few of them are speaking the language you speak and have the same diet as yours, chances are more that you mix with those people more than others.

I don't consider that as racism, rather it is a basic social need. And where we don't get the people we like to mingle most, we just expand our criteria. Punjabi Speaking to Hindi Speaking to Any Indian to South Asian....

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Can someone explain why exactly you need desi friends? I know one desi person but all my friends and girlfriends are local white folks. If you still keep searching for desis wherever you happen to be, you may have made a wrong move in life. Time to return.

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Can someone explain why exactly you need desi friends? I know one desi person but all my friends and girlfriends are local white folks. If you still keep searching for desis wherever you happen to be, you may have made a wrong move in life. Time to return.

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If you still keep searching for desis wherever you happen to be, you may have made a wrong move in life. Time to return.

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Fido.

It also depends on where you live. Large urban areas like Toronto, Montreal, Vancouver etc. are higly cosmopolitan with large bodies of diverse cultures-ethinicities intermingling.

Some of these diverse peoples are recent arrivals. So there is bound to be friction between these groups. There are ethnic ghettos as well. But these places also give excellent cross-cultural exposure to these diverse groups and by second-gen they are pretty much multi-culti.

Smaller towns are a bit different. On the whole, people are nicer. But they are also somewhat less exposed to foreign cultures. Just pretend that you like hockey, cranberry-juice & beer, and you will get along well with most people.

A person is exposed to a Gora is only limited ways.

1. One is buying things
2. Next one is getting a job.
3. On non specific contact

1. Buying things, they like you a lot since you pay money. So in this case, they will smile, be happy with you and the like.

2, Getting a job is a hard task (unless you are a IT professional). Once you land in a job, the employer is getting work from you. So to some extent he will be happy with you. Collegues also will be fine since they want the whole office to run well. When layoff comes, the worthless worker will be sent first and next will be the Non- Whites.

Once the employer has sufficient manpower or when recession strikes, I have seen that mom and pop companies start showing subtle racism towards the non-white. They start treating you like crap. If you resign and say that you are moving to a better salary but for that you need some drawings / copies of work done / work experience certificate, then they start showing their true colours. It has happened to me.

3. This is when you are doing things where you will get in contact with Gora's like travel on TTC, window shopping, attending concerts etc.. This is when you can experience subtle racism as one poster had claimed. As a Dravidian, I am used to talk in loud voice on the phone (But in English). Sometime in 2003, when I was talking to my friend on the TTC on my cellphone, I could hear a mongolian man grumble behind me. When he got down, he shouted at me from the road.

Other incident when I was at Zellers and there was a Lady and a child standing in the aisle. I told "Excuse me please" and walked past. The child heard it but the lady did not. She called me and said "An excuse me is needed". I told the lady that I did tell it and the Child confirmed it to the lady. Then the Lady said Sorry. So this example proves that they assume that Immigrants are uncouth people knowing no manner and that we are out here to use the universal healthcare system.

Murali

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I am a Gents and not a Ladies.

The thing with GORAS is they like going to CLUBS & BARS . Most of their socialisation will take place there.

Desis are NOT really into it . Even desis who drink will generally buy beer & wine from THE BEER STORE or LCBO and drink at home as its much cheaper. They won't pay $ 8 for a beer in a bar, when they can get a beer bottle for $ 1.50
at home .

Other thing GORAS will do is have a cheap BBQ in their back yard. They will even ask you to BYOB - Bring Your Own Booze , and they will throw in some cheap burgers, sausages, chicken wings for you

Also they will have a cheap POTLUCK in their house, where each one is suppossed to bring his/her own dish .

So desis avoid goras and goras avoid desis