One of my friend was planning a wedding, when unexpectedly a death occured in the family. The quetion here is, how soon can a person marry after a death in family? Do one have to wait 1 year or can it be done sooner, and how soon at the earliest? Would like your feedback, cos my friend is eager to marry and by indian culture, they are expected to wait one year. Did anyone go through same problem, if so, what did you guys do? Is it inauspicous to marry before a year is over following the death?
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Ed
well i guess it all depends on family (s). my cousin had a same problem, but everyone (family members) agree to get the marriage ceremony done after 3 months of ............(you know what i mean here)
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Inderpal Singh
Sorry - yesterday was the deadline for all complaints
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The family needs to decide this together. My grandfather died when my cousin was to get married but since he was 92 and had lived his life in blessing, our family went ahead with the wedding plans. Your friend needs to speak to his family and they need to decide among themselves.
Jona
Location: God's own country
Posted on: 16-05-08 10:46:16
SB,
It depends on who died.
In our south Indian christian culture, the max. time that you can put off is 1 year and is normally used when a husband/ wife lose a spouse and want to remarry again. For all the rest of the people, it is usually put off since their memories are a bit forgotton, like 3 months for parents / siblings and 1month for grand parents.
I know of a case in which the grand mother of a lady passed away on the night before the marriage. The marriage went on anyway the next day. Most of the close relatives did not eat the meat Biriyani that was served and which was used to feed the poor of that area and hence it was a blessing in dusiguise.
Peace out
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I am a Gents and not a Ladies.
Thx everyone!
But if one marries earlier than one year, would their married life be troubled, or is the marriage considered inauspicious?
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Ed
Please don’t be superstitious. Death and birth are in no one hands, go ahead with marriage plans with everyone’s blessings. Blessings are what newly weds need and a lot of understanding to make marriage auspicious (successful)!!
Jona
