hi cd members

wanted to knkow if anyone has been in similar situation

i want to send my 5 yr old to india for studying till std 10th as

the studies in india especially maths is quite good


after grade 10 he can decide what he wants to do

now the question here is that will any school take him or do we

have to send him to inernational school as he is a canadian citizen

but not by birth (born in india)??

We are also thinking on the same lines. We would like them to get the real world exposure rather than the controlled environment here. The basics in Indian school are good. There are some really good schools in cities, though they are not internaional and does not have to be. Look at some convent schools. They are great.

At least the kids will learn how to mingle with others and get along unlike here where parents call all the shots in most cases (control freaks) and the children are just the puppets (or puppies).

(bullets, that are coming my way, divert to the board please)

DIO

What about the bonding between parents and children? Situations where children stay away from their parents in the formative years of their lives, lead to a lot of emotional problems. Why do we Indians focus only on studies. Your child is just 5 ...so cherish your time with him and send him for Kumon classes if Maths is such a big factor.

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Won't it be a cultural shock for the child who lived all those years till grade 10 and now back here for the further studies.

Here studies does not make the difference. The difference is how smart are you in dealing the situations and presenting your self.

We are all immigrants (first generation) here. We studied back in our country where as per you are the better standards of education. We are better qualified and skilled than most of the people who studied here. Are we better off? Are we being fairly treated for our higher level of education and professional qualifications

While the OP did not ask for opinions about his/her decision regarding sending their child back..I do have to ask:

Isnt 5 years too young to send a child off to another country so far away alone? Yes you may have relatives there but whose job is it to look after your child..is it theirs?? or yours?

education is very important in Canada, especially if one wishes to get a professional job and/or develop a good career. Even if someone isnt as strong in math..does that make a big deal? If they are naturally good in math, then you can facilitate that growth and learning here in Canada as well.

Last - You know the difficulty you face as a foreign graduate in landing a good job in Canada - Why do that to your child? Is their education going to be recognized and valued by employers or are they going to face the same barriers.


DIO: what is real world exposure?
in the end your child will have to interact with people who live in Canada. How will it benefit them to have to relearn and readjust?

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I suggest to those that are thinking of sending their kids away for a "better" education to think about the child's best interest. A child at that tender age NEEDS his/her parents. And I do not care who you have taking care of the child in India, it can never ever replace the connection with a parent. The worst part is you are sending the child away when they need the parent. Sending them away after grade 10 is infinitely better - actually they may want to get away at that point - but sending them away in their formative years is CHILD ABUSE! It is not called FORMATIVE years for nothing.

Looking at this strategically, why would you want to do this sort of thing? What benefits do you expect to gain from this move? In the end, your child will be in university along side a kid who went through the local system. I dare say the local child will have a better handle on what the professor wants in terms of papers etc, while your child (brilliant in spelling, correct sentence construction and multiplication) may not be able to articulate the solution to a problem. I say this because I went through this issue myself. Remember the education system is not called a system for nothing. It is a chain of curricula from Grade 1 to Undergraduate. Breaking one chain and joining another chain is difficult.

Oh and I love the "real" world experience. There is a fish in this tank pointing to another tank and saying "that" is the real world. Dare I ask what interaction are you looking for for your child?? And your solution is to send your child half way around the world?? Parents everywhere are protective - except those who were shunned in their formative ages (I won't say who they are, but they write among us). If your child needs help in "mingling", then sending them away will not help that. I dare say it may make them withdraw even more.

Finally, if this has not convinced you to reconsider - let me say this - YOU ARE BEING SELFISH. If it is important, vital, imperative your child get this experience or education, then go with them! Put your money where your mouth is and go with them! Unless of course, your "real world" experience or education is - nothing is more important that money! Let us see some intestinal fortitude to stand for what you think is right.

BV

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Originally posted by Big Vee

I suggest to those that are thinking of sending their kids away for a "better" education to think about the child's best interest. A child at that tender age NEEDS his/her parents. And I do not care who you have taking care of the child in India, it can never ever replace the connection with a parent. The worst part is you are sending the child away when they need the parent. Sending them away after grade 10 is infinitely better - actually they may want to get away at that point - but sending them away in their formative years is CHILD ABUSE! It is not called FORMATIVE years for nothing.

Looking at this strategically, why would you want to do this sort of thing? What benefits do you expect to gain from this move? In the end, your child will be in university along side a kid who went through the local system. I dare say the local child will have a better handle on what the professor wants in terms of papers etc, while your child (brilliant in spelling, correct sentence construction and multiplication) may not be able to articulate the solution to a problem. I say this because I went through this issue myself. Remember the education system is not called a system for nothing. It is a chain of curricula from Grade 1 to Undergraduate. Breaking one chain and joining another chain is difficult.

Oh and I love the "real" world experience. There is a fish in this tank pointing to another tank and saying "that" is the real world. Dare I ask what interaction are you looking for for your child?? And your solution is to send your child half way around the world?? Parents everywhere are protective - except those who were shunned in their formative ages (I won't say who they are, but they write among us). If your child needs help in "mingling", then sending them away will not help that. I dare say it may make them withdraw even more.

Finally, if this has not convinced you to reconsider - let me say this - YOU ARE BEING SELFISH. If it is important, vital, imperative your child get this experience or education, then go with them! Put your money where your mouth is and go with them! Unless of course, your "real world" experience or education is - nothing is more important that money! Let us see some intestinal fortitude to stand for what you think is right.

BV

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