Without going into too much detail about my family background here, I will say that my mother has been suffering with extreme Depression, Anxiety, and Eating Disorder (Anerixia) for many years. Most recently, she was hospitalized for drinking water excesively which caused her a seizure.

We have tried many doctors/health care professionals. I personally have attended some eating disorder groups but they didn't help, except for the fact I got to hear similar stories with no concrete answers/solutions. And most of these people were dealing with teenage girls who wanted to become models.

I wish i could share more with you here but at the moment I do not feel so comfortable online, yet. But I will ask you for some help as my family feels helpless.

If you know of any eating disorder centers that deal with South Asian women in particular, that would help. In hospitals, I hate to say this, but it is very hard for desis to have someone non-south asian relate to "us" when it comes to issues like this. I find their answers are very black-and-white, "eat more and this won't happen to you" or here are some more pills.

At the hospital a psychologist saw her for 10 mins alone (when she doesn't even speak english well), I was asked to leave the room. Then he prescribed some pills and told me he would call back after seeing her results. To this day no callback, she was hospitalized in May and to add insult to injury the same psychologist ignored me in an elevator the next day.

She is out of the hospital now, I try to scare her that she will end up there again if she doesn't eat. So she does if I eat with her, she was looking much better than she had in recent years. But her old rituals are showing their ugly head again: lying about food, hiding food, drinking water excessivly etc. And constantly worrying about the most trivial things.

I am very sorry to hear about your Mother. Since you have tried all you can here, have you considered taking her to India perhaps? Just wondering...medical facilities are great there now and people from the west go for treatment to cities like Bangalore.

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Without going into too much detail about my family background here, I will say that my mother has been suffering with extreme Depression, Anxiety, and Eating Disorder (Anerixia) for many years. Most recently, she was hospitalized for drinking water excesively which caused her a seizure.

We have tried many doctors/health care professionals. I personally have attended some eating disorder groups but they didn't help, except for the fact I got to hear similar stories with no concrete answers/solutions. And most of these people were dealing with teenage girls who wanted to become models.

I wish i could share more with you here but at the moment I do not feel so comfortable online, yet. But I will ask you for some help as my family feels helpless.

If you know of any eating disorder centers that deal with South Asian women in particular, that would help. In hospitals, I hate to say this, but it is very hard for desis to have someone non-south asian relate to "us" when it comes to issues like this. I find their answers are very black-and-white, "eat more and this won't happen to you" or here are some more pills.

At the hospital a psychologist saw her for 10 mins alone (when she doesn't even speak english well), I was asked to leave the room. Then he prescribed some pills and told me he would call back after seeing her results. To this day no callback, she was hospitalized in May and to add insult to injury the same psychologist ignored me in an elevator the next day.

She is out of the hospital now, I try to scare her that she will end up there again if she doesn't eat. So she does if I eat with her, she was looking much better than she had in recent years. But her old rituals are showing their ugly head again: lying about food, hiding food, drinking water excessivly etc. And constantly worrying about the most trivial things.

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The root cause is depression and not the eating disorder as you have been able to identify . Once cured , all other dis orders will disappear .

I think there was another thread on depression in charcha . t Please browse and learn more about it . Generally a change in circumstances , places , social circle , new avenues has a positive effect on depression . Research what fits in your case.

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Sorry to heard about your case......

You are saying she is eating when you are eating together with her.......

Try to eat with her once in a day. I know in here canada is not easy to manage personal life and job. But at least in Dinner you can share with her.

as per my opinion afer passing some age, People needs more love and care.....

may she feels alone. try to get dinner with her if possible seat together for dinner instead of alone. B'cos sometime internally you feel better when you eat together with full family.

try to talk with her with Sycophancy and some other talks..........like positive and fun kind of talks when your on dinner or lunch instead of shadness and same issue to realise her that she is not eating...etccc......

May will help.....God is great hope everything will be fine soon.

regards

Some types of depressions are cured by proper medication .

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You know you are a desi when ........ You spew forth the virtues of India, but don't want to live there...............You've never had a tanning salon membership

I should have mentioned, that my father did take her to India where she was told the same thing and handed some pills. This was in Dehli mind you, we have never visited South India.

Also just yesterday I inquired at South Asian Women's Center (http://www.sawc.org) and they appear to have programs that deal with these issues. Counseling and talk groups in several languages.

What I know is that my mother needs is a sense of belonging; a few like-minded individuals who will share stories and a few laughs. I've seen her at times she does open up to certain people but not all. She has raised 3 sons and no daughters, so I think she has always felt alone in a male dominated household. But she never shares this with us. Plus we don't have any family here in Canada that she could simply call and interact with.

The South Asian Women's Center, I mentioned above, is located in downtown and they have programs during weekday afternoons. This is difficult to manage with everyone working. Sure I can manage a few Monday afternoons and my brothers could take turns but how long can you do that?

Are there any centers like this one in Scarborough? Or any programs that are weeknight?