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Posted on: 02-04-07 16:52:19
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Originally posted by desi in ottawa
puttoo,
LOL. u got it right.
As TK wrote,
"Also when the person's both parents speak Desi language, they naturally seek a spouse who can speak the language of the parents."
>>>interesting. So the spouse will talk to only wth the parents (in the language) rather than the married spouse?
I speak to my husband in English, my inlaws in extremely broken punjabi but mainly in English and my hubby's grandparents in Gujerati (as that is my background). Hwever I have always been pressured by everyone in the family to learn to speak hindi or punjabi, blah blah blah and it drives me nuts. I can understand but don't speak - does that make me a bad person??
My hubby's cousin's marriage to a girl from India failed. They had a son. Now he is engaged to a white girl...it will be very interesting to see if they pressure her to learn to speak hindi or punjabi.
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Originally posted by Pink Panther
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Originally posted by desi in ottawa
puttoo,
my inlaws in extremely broken punjabi but mainly in English and my hubby's grandparents in Gujerati (as that is my background).
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Your hubby's parents speak Punjabi and their parents speak Gujrati.???
Location: British Columbia
Posted on: 02-04-07 17:09:00
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Originally posted by tamilkuravan
As far as i have seen and studied, Western raised Desi's marry a pucca desi as a result of their insecurities. They feel very insecure to marry a person who is a non desi. This is as a result of a combination of family pressure, disliking many aspects of the culture that they forcibly belong to, a feeeling of insecurity as to if they can assmilate 100% the non-desi culture, insecurity/ fear about if they can assimilate 100% to the relatives of the spouse etc.. In this case, marriage to a known culture (at atleast a culture known to the parents) seems safe and logical.
TK A
Marriage can also be based on shared interests, similar personalities, similar faiths/spiritual beliefs, outlook on life, expectations etc. Even people born and raised in different countries/cultures can find a lot in common.
Fear isnt always the motivating factor.
atleast IMO.
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Posted on: 02-04-07 18:09:09
Ok.
I lived overseas from when I was 13 years old and finally married a desi girl from India, working in the ad world by day and was a model for 'Tips and Toes' (cosmetic line) in the evenings.
By all accounts, she was one who lived life in the fast lane and was more 'modern' and 'forward' than any 'western' raised girl I knew including many Caucasians.
She doesn't even speak our mother tongue properly and she lived all her life in India till she got married.Her parents also converse more in English than in our mother tongue.She neither reads nor writes our mother tongue, but I do.We mostly converse in English as well.
All my close family relatives at that time told me I should arrange for the divorce party 
before the marriage ceremony.
18 years on, we are still together.
Maybe I am missing something?
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Posted on: 03-04-07 10:09:41
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Originally posted by puttoo
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Originally posted by Pink Panther
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Originally posted by desi in ottawa
puttoo,
my inlaws in extremely broken punjabi but mainly in English and my hubby's grandparents in Gujerati (as that is my background).
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Your hubby's parents speak Punjabi and their parents speak Gujrati.???
Yes, as well as Punjabi and Swahili...why?
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