yes, vey true, sometimes we analyze it too much then necessary..probably "the run" for life (not cancer or heart..!!) makes us go thru that....and we just need a simple break or a pause to experince the silence, be it a break from writing posts when you hit ur 1000th CD post or listening to modest mouse albums..see you then when you are back!

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kathiawadi

This sounds more like our contractors.

http://www.hiringacontractor.com/En/default.asp

I am sure I shall not miss India, if all is like this.

Life is same everywhere. The degrees vary.

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Interesting and well meaning posts from every1 .

I keyed in this topic as this is an intangible issue hardly touched and yet so important . Hence the real picture good or bad , acceptable or otherwise should surface . Generally as a human tendency we pine for what is not ..... so when an Indian decides to imigrate he just thinks abt the infrastructure and glitz and discounts the culture variance and job satisfaction(another thread elsewhere) which make him think twice upon reaching .

What I speak is GENERALLY speaking and not the norm . And I do stand corected in case of incorrect assumptions .........for 1 instance pointed out by DtC abt the love and respect b/w Canadian families .

India is a big country much bigger than Mbai /Delhi combined .If sm1 says that the peer group in 80s or even mid 90s had premarital sex as a NORM I would not find that very convincing .

Things are changing undoubtedly , The DPS episode may just be the tip of the iceberg . But still............... the metros do not represent the norm as much as DPS doesnt represent Delhi schools . I have been from a small town and partly lived in Delhi as well and though out of India for 6 years I would wager that pre marital sex is still taboo ........DtC pointing out that virginity being non existent post 18 was an anticipated eye opener . Personally , be it India or abroad , built upon the values that I ve been fed with I would dread that to my daughter. I dont know how many of posters wud accept that . On the contrary--- do desis retain their culture and values in their children and let them become Indian Canadians ?

Its not a question of right or wrong ....... but values which make us decide whats right and whats wrong. Build on Indian system a person may feel difficulty in adapting ------- in diluting his values . Is this transition painful?

And then the culture ------- eating drinking, living , socialising ....... has ben missed hence re bringing to light ......... India has a different color on Diwali or Holi or Navratre or Ganesh Chaturthi .......... U eat differently , wear differently ......... socialise differently as to when in Canada .....things which give us an identity and a sense of belonging ...... I know we have communities in different localities and u have desi friends but thats just an essence and not the flavor .......... I recall a friend of mine wants 2 return form US to India apparently for these reasons

Q is are these reaons valid or non existent beyond one's adaptability acumen .? Is their an identity crisis upon migrating ..........I recall a friend's 8 yr old (who ve recently migrated ) saying - 'Uncle v r not Indians , v r not Canadians ........v r Camedians .

Manasvi.

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If sm1 says that the peer group in 80s or even mid 90s had premarital sex as a NORM I would not find that very convincing .

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DtC pointing out that virginity being non existent post 18 was an anticipated eye opener . Personally , be it India or abroad , built upon the values that I ve been fed with I would dread that to my daughter.

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