Very intersting news published in the Times of India ...

AHMEDABAD: Sarika Patel, 24, with her good looks, decent education and an American accent, could not find a suitable match for a spouse during her two month-long stay in Gujarat. The reason, as incredible as it may seem, are her NRI credentials!

As Sarika found to her dismay, eligible men were turning up their noses in disdain. They would rather stay back home at a time when India was witnessing an economic boom.

With changing values, exciting job opportunities and comforts at home, NRIs are no longer considered to be a good catch. After all, who wants to balance both work and home without a support system abroad, when life could be more comfortable in India?

"Things seem to have changed. All the boys I met told me they would not like to leave India," says Sarika, a New Yorker.

Paresh Bhavsar, who teaches in a Texan University, was also rejected by ‘desi’ girls.

"The girls I met here are working professionals who didn’t want to go abroad. In fact, they said they would rather go abroad for work than marriage," says a dejected Bhavsar.

As most Gujarat families have friends and relatives in the US, prospective brides and grooms have a fair idea of what to expect abroad. "The girls I liked were educated, smart and independent. But they didn’t seem gung-ho about packing their bags and marrying a stranger, even if it meant going to the US," says Boston-based IT professional Kalpan Shah,who headed back to the US without a bride.

Ohio-based Chintan Patel had to make two trips to India before he could find a match. "I was really shocked to find that the girl I liked had refused to even meet me when she was told I lived in the US. She hated the thought of leaving her family and career in India for a fast-paced life in the US," he says.

Marriage bureaux say that at least 20-30 per cent of men and women who registered with them refused to go abroad. "Working women feel that in India, they have the luxury of hiring maids and even leaving their kids in their in-laws’ care. But they do not have that option abroad, which is why they don’t want to go there," says owner of Parinay Marriage Bureau, Kalpana Shah.

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Great post. Loved it. This should bring down the arrogance of NRIs (especially US based). Whether it is gujjus, southies, punjabis, it applies to all. Dangling citizenship infront of India based girls/boys is a worst thing to do. This is like going to a market and showing off money to buy things.

I know couple of families here in Ottawa who have done it. All but one marriage has failed. The problem is the NRI parents who think that by raising children here, they have achieved something great and think that those in India are poor and dont have anything. U call this a marriage? It's a marriage of convenience.

On the other side, there are boys/girls in India who want to get out of the country ASAP. For them, marriage of conveneince is a great opportunity. They dream of the wonderland called USA. How to get there soon? By marriage.

Like to hear from other CDs especially who defend this marriage of convenience. I am there are some on this group.

DIO

FYI the NRI's the world over are the same whether they are from US, Canada or UK. Do I sense that the grapes are sour?

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