We have most of the time talked good/bad about canada. Let me write something worst about canada apart from new immigrants suffering and struggling, the people who are already settled down still working on labour jobs after 5 years etc.etc.

I have been here only four months and last month and this month I have 2 very high class rich women married to Indian canadian who are abused and leaving the house with small children knocking my door asking for help till they make arrangement to leave for India. I was shocked about their story.

These are the ladies who are profession like doctors,software professionals etc who are very rich and have flats in Hiranandani complex and evershine building in bandra and andheri where only rich Indians reside.

can somebody tell me how to handle such situations without affecting us personally and our family life. I have even heard that punjabis and sikhs etc get married and bring newly married wife and ask them to earn their own living to survive. They even tell their new wife to go and do labour jobs. Poor ladies are shocked and one of my known person put them in kitchen cutting and cooking work. This has been happening for quite a long time time. I have heard these stories from ladies who are here since 2-3 decades.

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Do you believe that Canada as a country is the root cause for the women's abuse since you started with, "Let me write something worst about canada...."? Could it be that certain people are abusive whoever they are (regardless of their gender, race, ethnicity, etc) or wherever they live?

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I have even heard that punjabis and sikhs etc get married and bring newly married wife and ask them to earn their own living to survive.

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If there has been domestic violence, they can contact
http://www.mcss.gov.on.ca/mcss/english/pillars/community/programs/violence_women.htm

http://www.shelternet.ca/en/

Also they can contact a social worker at nearby Family and Children's Services.

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Gopal Pai,
there can be various circumstances

1. Husband was in a good job / buisiness in India and he immigrated to canada and unable to find a job or do good business. Thus he turned to negetiveness, depression , alchohol and started abusing his wife.

2. Husband was in buisiness / IT / Accountancy in India and was able to make it big in Canada. He turned his attention to the beautiful Gora ladies in Canada and started likeing them and disliking his Indian wife (esp. if it was a dravidian wife) and started abusing them.

In any Case, Canada offers very good protection to women. if she calls 911 and complains about her husband, the police will take care of him. In case if he ever used physical abuse, police can put the husband in jail. women have equal rights here, unlike india.

Peace by TK

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I told them, but they don't wish to get involved with police because they want to patch up with husbands and if they call cops, the situations will worsens. typical indian woman mentality. I feel they are very foolish to leave house at night say 9-10 pm and that too with small children in hand and no money. They call their old parents after leaving and poor parents must be worried to death till they reach India.

I told them about a case, whereby the lady was brought to canada after marriage and her husband used to bring prostitutes in the house and enjoy in front of spouse and how one prostitute asked the wife to call police and police came and slapped the drunk husband and they are separated and she enjoys going to college and parties and the husband bears all her expenses of studies and parties. She said she is punishing him for torturing her and one day he came and begged her to reduce her expenses and she promised him that she will increase and wants to see him penniless and begging on the road. She said he will pay for spoiling her life.

Some people/spouse deserve to suffer if they can't take the responsibilities seriously. Not all women are bold enough to take such bold decisions.

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can somebody tell me how to handle such situations without affecting us personally and our family

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