I have observed that some women (majority south Indians) don’t wear dupatta when they dress in salwar-kameez. I don’t get it and I am baffled. At least put it on one shoulders and cover one side of the chest. Many south indian women, specifically from lower middle class families and who come from smaller cities know only to wear sarees, now wear salwar kameez (nothing wrong) after moving to the wonderland, don’t wear dupatta. Why is this? Even moms with teenage children do so.
Women who are well built look awful when they don’t wear dupatta. When these women come towards me to talk, I have prayed god “please don’t let her say hello to me” and I avoid eye contact. Sorry ladies, I cant see you eye to eye when u don’t wear dupatta. My eyes are going somewhere else. Since I cant make eye contact and dont want to stare at a particular spot(s), I need to look elsewhere and that’s taken as an insult by some women.
Disclaimer (many thanks to TK): This is my observation only. Hope I haven’t hurt any feelings.
DIO
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Posted on: 24-04-06 10:18:20
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Originally posted by desi in ottawa
Sorry ladies, I cant see you eye to eye when u don’t wear dupatta. My eyes are going somewhere else. Since I cant make eye contact and dont want to stare at a particular spot(s), I need to look elsewhere and that’s taken as an insult by some women.
Disclaimer (many thanks to TK): This is my observation only. Hope I haven’t hurt any feelings.
DIO
What's wrong with you? You can't look a woman in her eyes because the shape of her curves are visible? Does she need to wrap the dupatta around her behind too so that you don't feel compelled to ogle that too?
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Posted on: 24-04-06 10:19:34
DIO,
Thanks for dragging my name in. I belive that this is a very sensitive and delicate issue and i prefer to keep out of this.
TK
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Originally posted by desi in ottawa
Since I cant make eye contact and dont want to stare at a particular spot(s), I need to look elsewhere and that’s taken as an insult by some women.
maybe you should just tell the women to stop their parts from staring at your eyes.
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Hi DIO,
As an extension to Pink Panther's response, I am curious as to what your reaction is when you see a woman in a standard short top and jeans? There must be plenty of women in these clothes in Canada?
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Originally posted by Pink Panther
What's wrong with you? You can't look a woman in her eyes because the shape of her curves are visible? Does she need to wrap the dupatta around her behind too so that you don't feel compelled to ogle that too?
touché.
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Posted on: 24-04-06 11:22:15
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Originally posted by desi in ottawa
I have observed that some women (majority south Indians) don’t wear dupatta when they dress in salwar-kameez. I don’t get it and I am baffled. At least put it on one shoulders and cover one side of the chest. Many south indian women, specifically from lower middle class families and who come from smaller cities know only to wear sarees, now wear salwar kameez (nothing wrong) after moving to the wonderland, don’t wear dupatta. Why is this? Even moms with teenage children do so.
Women who are well built look awful when they don’t wear dupatta. When these women come towards me to talk, I have prayed god “please don’t let her say hello to me” and I avoid eye contact. Sorry ladies, I cant see you eye to eye when u don’t wear dupatta. My eyes are going somewhere else. Since I cant make eye contact and dont want to stare at a particular spot(s), I need to look elsewhere and that’s taken as an insult by some women.
Disclaimer (many thanks to TK): This is my observation only. Hope I haven’t hurt any feelings.
DIO
Every week begins with a controversial topic that gets 8-9 pages dedicated to it.
DIO, what did you hope to accomplish by posting the above?
No one controls what you do, except yourself. No one controls your thoughts and your feelings except you yourself. Saying a woman not wearing a dupatta is causing you to look at her breasts (call a spade a spade).. is like saying a woman is asking for rape because she wears a short skirt or a low neck shirt or other item of clothing.
We are fortunate to be in a society/country that does not blame or put the responsibility on women to keep 'honor' and 'modesty'.
DIO, in this case I will be even more blunt and say that you will need to look at your attitude towards women, see if that is where the problem lies.
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