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Originally posted by HelloG
Its just been a year that we came to Canada so we did have an idea about stuff that will be appreciated but you know somehow it was more of an attitude thing. Does it happen with all NRIs that when they visit they are the ones who are expected to pay everywhere and everytime.
I think i am taking it too far and i should just forget and move on...Just wanted to share and vent this .
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I am a Gents and not a Ladies.
Thanks guys for inputs. Feeling light now!
At least in know now that i do have fellows travelling in the same boat. Terms 'Farz' and 'Kanjos' are quite appropriate to describe the point as mentioned by Ben and TK.
TK liked your idea of stuff that can be taken and won't leave a big hole in wallet.I was feeling bad about myself to have those thoughts ..not anymore!
I will start keeping some money aside for such visits so that it doesn't come as a big blow next time!
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Originally posted by HelloG
Thanks guys for inputs. Feeling light now!
At least in know now that i do have fellows travelling in the same boat. Terms 'Farz' and 'Kanjos' are quite appropriate to describe the point as mentioned by Ben and TK.
TK liked your idea of stuff that can be taken and won't leave a big hole in wallet.I was feeling bad about myself to have those thoughts ..not anymore!
I will start keeping some money aside for such visits so that it doesn't come as a big blow next time!
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~ Morning rain
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Originally posted by morning_rain
Why would you spend so much money again the next time??
If next time you find yourself paying for everything and spending too much money..whose fault is it? You can say NO. You have a choice.
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Originally posted by HelloG
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Originally posted by morning_rain
Why would you spend so much money again the next time??
If next time you find yourself paying for everything and spending too much money..whose fault is it? You can say NO. You have a choice.
Oh no no! Keeping aside money so that i donot indulge again in impulsive buying and buying stuff as suggested by fellows here.
As far as saying NO goes,trust me, it is easier said than done esp when it has to do with your in-laws. Its like double trouble. Its about 'Farz' and I would say the impression, that people who put their foot outside India are 'Rich', has already been created and is beyond correction!!!
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Reminds of my first ever return trip to India. Two suitcases full of stuff which gave me enough hassles with Mumbai customs. Except for a couple of friends, no one even bothered to express even the slightest happiness for getting the same. Some were even top of what is happening in this side of the world and asked me 'why did you buy this, why not that?'... This was at at time all western goods were not even available in India. Now pretty much everything is there.
Anyways these days I don't bother to carry lots of stuff. Takes some t-shirts or caps or keychains or so with Canadian logos etc. Buy some cholates etc. in India after landing (All the chocolates which are available here are available there too)... If any way I am going to get complaints, I will as well save my money!
Thanks HelloG for starting the thread. Atleast I know now that I am not alone in this!
Ben: What you said is exactly what I have in mind.
Let me also vent a bit. Over the 9 yrs we are out the same happens (the first time exactly like Hello G, loads of money no appreciation, not even thanks). I've stopped buying gifts for anyone, be it family or friends or in laws, cash is the mantra. The last trip in March-08 I bought gift coupons for Rs. 1000, or more from malls and stores like India bulls, Archies, etc. They were much appreciated.
One little smart suggestion, if you want to shop in India go alone to markets or malls with your kids or hubby. Over the years I noticed when we are shopping; 3-4 people will tag along and shop on our expense. This trip I mainly stayed at home, spending time with parents and talking...talking. Going shopping over the years is the least thing on mind and spending time with parents takes over.
Jona
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