SKD,

your case seems all too familiar, with many young ladies falling in similar traps. Your best option would be to consult a lawyer before doing anything. You have not stated in your posting where did your marriage occur, whether it was in India or in Canada/USA. Marriage laws varies according to jusridication , nevertheless they are strong and stringent every where and usually loaded in favour of the weak party ,usually the women. Also you have not stated if you signed any pre-nupital contract with the your ex-husband.If your marriage is legally undertaken, which I presume is the case ,as you have applied for the PR through this, and depending on the pre-nup contract you have made, you can bring down the guy on his knees.

In any case he has to file a divorce case wherever the marriage is undertaken( in the same jurisdication) ,before he makes any other engagements related to marriage. You can also initiate the process through your lawyer. You can contact many lawyers through internet based in Canada to file a divorce againast him, and seek compensation apart from half of his assets. you can even visit Canada on visitng visa,for the case.If the jusridication is in India you can even try him in a criminal court for cheating and for many other provisions, including abuse .

regarding the immigration to Canada it looks like you have to start again as it is already withdrawn .

Contact a good lawyer and he will be able to guide you on how to proceed with this .

Nothing lasts Forever .....

I shall key in my 2 cents for the OP .

Of all the things that you have mentioned , I think certificates are the most crucial as if you have them , you can get the rest by their virtue alone . You must ask for them and the person should nt be having any problems with that unless he wishes to harass more .

You are under estimating your rights in India and I assume Canada also . Though you may not be able to continue your sponsorship in Canada you can get in touch with the HRC in Canada and they can take the case forward for you .Google and you can find the office for the city your husband is resident of.

A marriage can be divorced in either the city / state where it was solemisnised or the current city / province of residense ... in his case bein Canada ... needless to mention divorce is more common here and hence laws are far less stricter .

You would have more than a case in India though as everyone including the media (which can also be an approachable and startin option ) is baying for errant NRIs .blood ... If you go through the right lawyer , I am sure the system .... esp our Pandu Hawaldars ... will harass the guy s family to death ..... after putting them in jail w/o investiation and under a non bailable crime (dowry )..... there is no hearing in a murder and a dowry case in India ..... but get your documents in order and contact a competent lawyer . He may be put on the back foot once his family is in trouble and he knows he is wanted the moment he lands in India ... which obviously he will do at some point of time or other . Once he is on the backfoot you can negotiate materially more than what you have lost and will serve him right also .... he would not have much choice as the Indian system is very unforgiving to such people.

Though life has been unfair to you .... and may cause you depression for some time .... a bigger problem wich you havent realised ... remember all phases in life are temporary and if we dont succumb to them , we are bound to re surface . Lets take and accept life and its happenings at face value .. whatever be the reasons , the fact is that this has HAPPENED and cant be changed back... Thats reality . In a way its better that the matter is in black and white ...and the pic is clear . The moment you will ACCEPT that it has happened , you will be a different person...remember accidents happen in life and there are people in the world in worse condition that you are . I learnt of someone today who was divorced after having one girl with in 1.5 years of marriage .... coz ithe guy was interested in someone else before marriage and his paents forced him in this alliance .... I wonder this being the case how could he have the child and refuse responsibility ... the end is .. the woman is left with a child ...

Talk to a couple of a friends who can listen to you witout advising you .... you can use Internet also ... like this forum . At this time I feel you need to be heard more and counselled than anything else ..... depression can be be both engulfing and illusive .... realize reality.

Though I must say that yours is one side of the story and judgment cannot be reached by hearing only one side... I dont know what the guy s reasons were .... if they were indeed unjust he should be made to realse that and the first step would be to not to feel dependent or linked with him anymore ... I know this is going to be hard but nothing can be better than this.... as this will boost your confidence and provide a new direction .

Legally worlwide he cant claim any expenses he s made on you. On the other hand you can claim a lot as damages .... maintenance for future which will be effected & insured by the court .... heard K Fed wants $50m from Britney Spears and Sly s 3rd wife cost him a fortune on the divorce.

Having said that I am reminded of the movie 'Arth' . My final suggestion ...watch it you will get your solution

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Fido.

I have gone through the whole post and i am symphathising with ur situatiuon dear .
Media is a pwerful means to get to the right place , u can go openly to newspapers with the person contact and details and let the world know of ur bad marriage .
I am sure u will be gain something out of all and demand u need to go back there and then divorce him .
i hope u gte thru this difficult phase and hope u get on with life leaving all this behind not easy but not impossible

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Nur

Hi skd8

I guess you saved your life by going back to India. Recently there were 3 case of Indian women killed( one was burnt to death) by their husbands in BC. This spousal abuse is a major issue in Canada.

I would say dont give up. Take all legal action against him. File for divorce and get 1/2 of his assets. File all cases against him in India. If he comes back to Indian he should get arrested. Dont give him a chance to come back to India and destroy another womens life.
Your are educated and you can come to USA on your own, from where you can still fight.

All our support is with you

I cant thank all of you'll enough for all the advice I have recieved. It has helped me a lot. I am feeling a lot of better and ready to start afresh. I just hope future is better for me and God is kind this time.

One thing is my husband has agreed to give back my certificates and documents, files etc. But what he did is called my brother and gave him a ultimatum to pick the things up or else he will throw it. My brother tells me there are close to ten boxes.
My brother being a poor international student doesnot have enough space to store this so I was thinking for having this sent to me.

Can someone please suggest what will be the most cost effective way to send my belongings from Toronto to Mumbai, India?

Any help is appreciated

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Fido.

Accidents happen in life. Rather than thinking about revenge or teaching that guy a lesson, why don't you think about your future?

I see you are a well accomplished woman having workes abroad. I am not sure how old you are but also remember your options are limited as you get older if you want to get married again because of the following reasons:

(i) Women normally tend to marry some one who is in a better financial position/job/education than themselves. Reverse is not true - a guy with a good job may marry a girl who is unemployed and is willing to be housewife

(ii) Men in India prefer to marry younger women preferably unmarried even when the guy is divorced

(iii) If you are a Muslim Woman , then you are less fortunate- you have lesser chances because as per Islam you can't marry outside your religion while Muslim men can marry muslim, christian or jewish women

(iv) If you are Brahmin/upper caste - you are unfortunate again since women tend to marry people of higher caste and don't like to marry men of lower caste

Because of all the reasons above you have lesser choice every day

If you are still fixated on taking revenge, then the best bet for you is to come to US, take a visitor visa to Canada and file a complaint in Canada . But be prepared to lose time and money on this issue.(Helping the lawyers benefit out of this)

Would you rather look forward to get a good partner and move on in your life or would still hang in the past and waste your time? The choice is yours.

My two cents