Location: Western Hemisphere
Posted on: 21-02-05 18:13:08
Irrespective of what kind of marriage it is, the relationship will last only as long as both the partners understand and compromise. Is one good over the other? I don't know. It is certainly interesting that I happen to read this topic now since I have been hearing about divorces in the past two months.
1. My cousin - she is in the process of divorce - lives in India - the guy is having affairs - love marriage.
2. My co-worker - desi - in the process of divorce - lives in US - don't know the reason - arranged marriage.
3. My co-worker - desi - in the US - divorced - don't know the reason - arranged marriage.
4. My ex co-worker and a good family friend - American (Caucasian, if that makes a difference), just completed the divorce after 12 yrs of marriage - needless to say, love marriage.
5. One of our family members - seriously considering divorce - "fed up" with her husband - married for many years - has a 20 yr old daughter studying in US - immigrated to US about 8 yrs ago - arranged marriage.
Other than the fact the relationship is not working, I have not personally seen a pattern of arranged or love marriage being the cause.
Mine is a love marriage, so far so good
- met in Univ in the US while working on MS degree - married for 6 years - lived together in campus housing for 1 year before marriage - known my spouse for additional year before living together.
We don't have a common Indian language to speak at home and hence English is our primary language. That has been the only cause of concern for our families since communication has hindered once a while for our families, not us.
So, I guess that's my view on the type of marriage 
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Dimple2001
Arranged marriages seem like the way to go. As in our culture and faith marriage isn't just between two people, it is between two families.
You can fall in love with anyone you are associated to for a long period.
yes thats how it is but its more important that the couple care for each other. Families can learn to like each other after all the individuals are the ones who have to live together all their life.
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Orginally posted by arafiq786
Arranged marriages seem like the way to go. As in our culture and faith marriage isn't just between two people, it is between two families.
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Orginally posted by arafiq786
You can fall in love with anyone you are associated to for a long period.
I dont agree. I think. if u are associated with them for a long period you also get to know who they really are and if you can live with that.
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Orginally posted by dimple2001
Irrespective of what kind of marriage it is, the relationship will last only as long as both the partners understand and compromise.
Thanks. I agree that it depends more on the people involved than societies categorisation.
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It depends more on people, again what you value, what are the priorities, and upto what extent can you take aand survive the differences...or how strong you are to go along ..it's not just imotions, it's what you want to see as your offspring's future ..and it's what you can compromise at the moment inorder to see that future..
Arranged marriages, your love towards your partners matures with time, with those differences and struggles, therefore it is everlasting besides those tsunamis.. don't know about love merriage..
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