Posted on: 18-05-12 15:11:47
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Originally posted by bhootnath
Well, although above mentioned points are valid, logical and completely makes sense, I have contradictory view because such events are once in a life time. Whatever you do it is not going to repeat. It is a different story if you cannot afford or doing it solely based on dowry. Or just for sake of your principles. But for some special occasions, let your logic get locked in a corner of brain and let the heart take it over. Marriage is such occasion! Be it yours, your daughters or your son's. And this is again not for the sake of what other will say but a very special happy moment in my life and let us share that joy with others.
As this is a very special occasion for parents and bride and they have been looking forward for years, not for other's sake, but for their own sake, just shutting them down with your logic may result in borken hearts. They will listen to you and your logic and just keep quite for your sake. I know a lot of money gets spent, but then what is the other occasion when all of your family members including the distant ones and far end friend gather together? Apart from marriage and death I do not see many such events.. And marriage is where you share your joy/happy moment.
As far as pandit and puja, waise bhi tradition bachaa hi kitna he... everyone is calling it as farse but as we all know each and every mantra/rites performed has a great significnace it is just that they are easy to ignore.
Be it is Hindu, muslim, christian or any other religion, I think marriage should be celebrated in traditional way and that too with as many people you know being involved.
OP: sorry to hijack the thread and not at all pointing to you.
Congratulations and best wishes!
Bhootech Bhai , every tradition start with the noble thought as yours, its heartful in the beginning but unfortunately it takes the heartless form of menace like dowry, social pressure, mandatory gifting & must pomp-show requested by to be in-laws, parents taking loans etc. to the extent that Sati and social rebuke of widow was made part of marriage institution and deemed religious ceremony till it got abolished.
Since the humankind, specially Indian species, catches ills out of good so easily, it is important to not to listen to the heart always , play responsible and nip shit in the .... as much possible as one can.
Celebrating life ocasions is important , celebrations can be done in close compartments, why we dance on the road with red queue of band, blowing firecrackers leaving bunch of residual on public place and scare the hell out of an animal ?? To show the neighbors our big heart , may be ??!!?? !
Sorry Avani, the thread is hijacked !
Dekho bhai I knew I will get a backlash. But if you have guts to completely ignore all the tradition with the reasons given above such as sati, dowry mandatory gifting etc etc, I think you can very well take on the celebrations of marriage. Because others took disadvantages does not mean that when you celebrate you are one of them. Even if few calls it that way, as you said we are not doing this because what other say...so that is a mute point anyway.
40 minutes marriage? come on..not trying to make mockery or trying to show you down ...It sounded like typical forward thinking foreign returned educated gentleman who does not believe in so called nonsense tradition where all the rites are performed and a lot of people are invited. Now whoever you did not invite, they don't care and I am sure you dont care either..that is it..end of it..families are shrinking and which may be good.
Agreed, take out the part of dowry, ghodi, and firecrackers..etc...but inviting only people you think are close, and cutting down on other rites of marriage....does not suit well..
Congratulations on strong going of 12 years of marriage. Performing the rites would not have made any difference. But when you can afford, calling a few more people would not have harmed either, same with little prolonged puja/rites.
Anyhow, slowly one of the wonderful tradition is getting disappeared, it may be still be there with first generation of immigrants. This tradition does not harm anyone it brings them together.
Bhootnath-ji, San hugo-ji, Shant ho jaiye. I agree with you both 
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I would have liked nothing better than to get married in the presence of my whole extended clan. Unfortunately, they are spread out all over the world and trying to organize such an event on short notice is not possible.
And it has to be short notice because Mom is freaking about Chaturmas (*eye roll*) starting soon. So the compromise has been a simple shaadi here and a badass party in desh once Chaturmas ends (which also gives everyone time to make travel plans).
Now, any information about temples? Thanks to the two posters above for pointers.
Avani
Chaliye deviji, aapki aagya sar aakhon par...
Does it have to be in temple only? Can it be in a banquet hall (a lot of them on airport rd/derry rd in brampton). Also check with Vaishno Devi temple in Oakville. Looking forward to get invitation.
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Originally posted by Avani23
I would have liked nothing better than to get married in the presence of my whole extended clan.
Avani
Now That's the spirit. Dont worry, consider this desi community is new extended clan and some of us will even dance in front of ghodi
. if you like you ride ghoda if dulha does not want to ride on ghodi..Quote:
Originally posted by bhootnath
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Originally posted by Avani23
I would have liked nothing better than to get married in the presence of my whole extended clan.
Avani
Now That's the spirit. Dont worry, consider this desi community is new extended clan and some of us will even dance in front of ghodi
Vaisey to meri na hee samajho, lekin naachtaa huaa bhoot dekhney kee bahut ichchaa hai !!
What was the location again ?? kahan ho rahahai yeh sabbb ?? ;-)
