Erra , Your wife IS brave in agreeing to stay here alone with two kids and no friends. Welcome to Canada.
One point which I forgot to mention earlier is the requirement of BOTH parents signing on certain forms for the kids (unless they are LEGALLY separated with no custody issues) . I'am not too sure how far this affects you , maybe you can consult with a lawyer after you arrive here. (it may just require you giving your spouse an authorizing letter)
On a final note: Make sure that they are well prepared for any eventuality before you depart for the middle East. The Canadian system is old and broken down and in some ways very similar to the Indian one. You need to scream to get things done.
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Few examples could be:
a) the husband starts spending more time in office since he is not too keen on going back home early while wife starts spending more time in window shopping (if she is not working) or gets more career oriented, if she takes up a job just to pass her time, rather than for monetary needs.
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c) The father expects the children to spend more time with him when he is with the family on a one week holiday, while children have developed their own time table and friends which they cannot break for 7 days just because the father is in town.
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For example, the husband might want to keep things in the bedroom in one way, and the wife says that well since he is there only for 7 days, why should the position of furniture or lamp or any other thing be changed.
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Believe it or not, it even becomes a habit of sleeping alone in the bed and so if for 7 days you want to sleep in the same bed, you cannot have as good a sleep as you would have if each had a bed of his/her own.
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Ha, ha !
I totally agree !
Rajan.
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It is extremely frustrating for everyone. The wife, the kids and you. there is a lot of emptional disturbance and frustration. But if you have to do it, then there is no option.
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Erra,
What I meant was children are more mature to understand the cultural differences & mainly the differences between good & bad around the age of 21-22 when they would have completed their graduation. When they would do their Masters or post-graduate degree in US/Canada, they would not face culture shock as much as some kids tend to do as per the example which was quoted in one of the posts.
Sensible decision, Erra.
Thanks & rgds.
Rajan.
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