Dear All,

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I know, this is gonna catch a huge FIRE. But yes, today at this moment I have no doubt whatsoever, that "I AM COMING TO CANADA". I know lot of people (more then 6000 views to my earlier post of NOT COMING TO CANADA), would react in different ways. Some will say, Kya ho gaya, pahele na bolta tha, why he is coming, or some will say, aa gaya na line pe?

But, thats the way it is. So many things I wrote in my replies about justifications at each step of my decision. But since few days, its been a battle of lot of thoughts. Lot of reality based factors. Lot of professional factors. However the reason remains the same as I once again repeat, I always go on three factors "STHAL (PLACE), "SANJOG (CIRCUIMSTANCE) and SAMAY (TIME).

Why I am coming (On personal factors)

I still remember a scene of a hindi movie called "Dilwale Dulhaniya le jayenge", it was ANUPAM KHER, the father talking to SHAHRUKH KHAN, the son. Shahrukh khan requests Anupam that he wants to go to EUROPE for vacation and first he says no. But listening that the SON decides not to go, he immediately says nahi "TUJE EUROPE JARUR JANA HAI, APNE LIYE NAHI TO MERE LIYE, TUJE MERI JAWANI JINI HAI".

The point is sometimes, one generation has to sacrifice for many more to come. It happens actually, especially in our Indian culture. My father was a simple, small-time Govt. servant. Daily in the morning he used to paddle his HERO CHAMP (I remember the moped name) and slowly at the speed of 30 KPH, he would reach his office and in the evening, I used to wait for him and see him coming back in the same tilted way of sitting on the moped. He worked for 37 long years at the same place. He did manage to bring us up. I had a 100 % physically handicapped sister, who recently died. I have other 2 sisters, who got married within the last 3 years. He got retired in 92 and I had to take over, and that too without completing my Graduation. I could do only a small DIPLOMA. SO today I am once again like my father making two ends meet.

So when I used to see that 3rd or 4th page of my passport since last few days with a WHITE STMAP on it, written as "CANADA VISA", I used to do a lot of SELF TALK. What should I do for my next generation to come? I think I am fighting for myself right now, not for my future generations to come. We owe a lot to the coming world. What I feel is every person, who is the bread winner of his family must have a progressive thinking. Progressive is like X+1 (with a vision of next 2 generations). THE BOTTOMLINE IS I WANT TO CREATE A VERY STRONG UNBREAKABLE PLATFORM FOR MY FAMILY MEMBERS (MY KIDS, MY SISTER’S KIDS AND OTHERS) BY EARNING MORE IN A PLACE LIKE CANADA.

Why I am coming (On professional factors)

Recently I got promoted and I came to kutch. I am always attached to a place called BHUJ, which is my native. Somehow after the earthquake and after my survival from the earthquake (as me and my wife do not want to remember the date 26th Jan, I am not writing much about the experience), I took a decision of coming to KUTCH. Now the place for the base station is GANDHIDHAM. And let me tell you its one of the most horrible places I have ever experienced in my life, DUST, POILLUTION, TRANSPORT, WATER, ELECTRICTY PROBLEM, LANGUAGE, MENTALITY OF PEOPLE what not…I generally fit my self in any condition. But this town makes me crazy. Can you believe every night when you finally sleep after a hectic work schedule of 14 hours, Electricity goes off for 3,4,5 hours. My wife and me literally do not sleep. I work in a private insurance company as a branch manager with income more then 6 lakhs P.A and my wife is an ASST MANAGER with a bank earning more then 2.5 lakhs P.A. Can you believe with this kind of income, we can live a king-size life. BUT THIS PLACE CALLED GANDHIDHAM IS NOTHING FOR US. You can’t even breathe well. I can't leave being a senior before 2 years.

So that’s the story so far, I know I may have lot of reactions from you all, but my decision is final now “I AM COMING, NOT FOR THE PRESENT BUT FOR THE FUTURE”

I would surely contribute further on this. I wanted to convey my feeling and the decision, hence I have not written full.

Regards,

VJ

Mr. VJ,

What is relevant today may not be relevant tomorrow.....that is why we humans occupy the superior most position in the animal kingdom....since we can think, analyze, scrutinize and basically mull on the pros and cons of any situation before we derive or arrive to any conclusion.

IMO, you have shown a great amount of guts not only in putting your views on a board with such a large membership, where anyone is open to thrash your view point to smitterins, but also in sharing your situation and change of thoughts.

Atleast 20 years from now you will not be left staring at your 'CANADA VISA' stamp and thinking ' WISH I HAD GIVEN IT A TRY '

You and your wife are the makers of your own destiny, you are the one who is wanting to make a change not only for your immediate family but also your extended family. Who would know your situation better than your ownself?...so even if you get 12,000 brickbats.

Actually difference of opinions are not brickbats....so you should not worry about what board members say....the beauty of such forums is that our perspective deepens and takes into account something we could have altogether missed, when we get so much of input from the varied opinions.....it is something to be grateful for....-ve or +ve.....at least people are putting in their time to convey what they feel....that's gr8!

ALL THE BEST !


regards,

Worship

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I think it is great for you to put this in the forums. Dont worry what we think. If you think this is best for you, then go ahead and do it. I am sure you will do well in Canada. Best of luck !!

VJ,
It is really impressive that even though you were going back and forth between coming and not coming, you finally have made a decision to come to Canada, and that too for your future/ next generation.

We all know that the first generation that immigrates undergoes many hardships and many of us back out with the fear of these hardships. We all want to come to Canada for a better life, if not for us at least for our coming generations. It is true we havent seen the future or the conditions may change, but at least we will know that we gave it our best shot. Keep it up VJ

June

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Dear VJ,

Most wel come!

STHAL ,SANJOG and SAMAY pramane badhu set thai jashe.

Best of luck and let me know if you need any help.

Regards,

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Kap

welcome VJ,

Life main thodi bahut struggle to honi hi chahiye...

I am struggling since last 3 years but only when i realise my DAD's words they always hammer my ears and heart...

" Haar ke akbhi na lautna"

Mere aashhirwad ko itna kamzoor na samajna ....


and i m still there and about to get citizenship bcos of great strenght provided by my Dad and i always close my eyes and think about his words when i m depressed and feel like losing heart...

Never think your self alone in this alien land ..there are lots and you may meet lots like you...keep running after every night there is definately a day.

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Do or Die.....

Get some skilss in India before you come here like Electrician, plumbaer, Mechanic, Plumber as these pay well here.

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You know you are a desi when ........ You spew forth the virtues of India, but don't want to live there...............You've never had a tanning salon membership