Dear Desi friends,

I came to Canada three years back, when I was 29. I used to work in Saudi Arabia before coming here for around 4 years and was with Tatas in India. I am a CA by profession.

My move to Canada was a much planned one. I tried to read as much as possible about Canada, printed the entire job opening list from Monster and Workopolis. Made a list of the skills that employers in Canada require and worked on developing those skills. Developed a resume’ in a Canadian format, written and re-written the resume’ at least 10 times. Realized that soft skills are more important in a Canadian environment and worked on developing them, decided to peruse CMA program once I land in Canada, got my credentials evaluated by them. In summary, I was almost fully prepared when I landed here. I knew what Canadian employer needs, I was armed with the right kind of resume’ and was fully set to go. It was a kind of sense of adventure that driven me, I was focused, enthusiastic and ready.

My efforts definitely paid off. I was on a full time job within a month of landing in Canada, I changed my job twice, I am now in a reasonably good position, making good money, have a town house. In a layman’s language, reasonably settled down in Canada.

I never thought of anything else during the move. It was a kind of youthful enthusiasm or energy that drove me. I did make it work.

But, now, after three years, things that I never thought of while planning my move started coming up. My parents started getting old and sick, my responsibilities at home started coming up. My health conditions could not match up to Canadian winter, started getting bad. I thought of the idea of moving my parents over to Canada, but, that means a complete relocation to them, I am afraid might affect them very badly.

Hence, I decided to move back to India in 2005.

Guys, I don’t know whether this is the right place to put this, but, did anyone go through a similar state?

Vadasambar

vs,

You are right this type of situation can come in anybody's life.
Even i m in your path of moving back to India in 2005 as i want to stay close with my parents and take care of them .
After all Money is not everything we hve certain responsibilities and we have to fulfill them..

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VS,

Not a similar situation - but I would say, exactly the opposite.

both my brother and myself had an opportunity in 1996 to move out of Singapore where we used to stay, along with our mother and eldest brother. Then late 96, my mother who was visiting India at that time, suffered a stroke and was hospitalized for about a month.

At that time, as the things looked, we had to take a decision that one of the three brothers will have to move back to India to look after our mother. Mentally, I was fully prepared since I had just resigned from my job without having another lined up. I knew I would get another job soon, and I had a wonderful life in Singapore (my whole family was there too), but still I prepared myself to move out and return to India and live that seemingly drudgery life. Fortunately however, at the end of her hospitalisation, we found she was much better than doctors expected her to be, and we decided to take a chance and bring her back to Singapore.

Had we both decided to leave singapore and migrate at that time, we would be happily engaged in gainful employement as of date- since both of us were younger by 5 years (below 40), and the economy was good both in Canada and in Australia - but we both decided against it since we wanted to be near our mother in such state.

Finally, in 2000, she passed away (my father passed away way back in 1969) - and only then did we decide to move here. Today both of us are eating into our savings.

But if you ask me whether I regret coming here after say 4-5 years than I could have, I would say - NO. Those four years with my mother made me understand my responsibities as a son, or as a parent much better than any other experiences. My children and my brother's children understood the family values and respect for parents and elders much better than any lectures, or sermons could teach them. Today they respect and love us more than what they would perhaps have because they saw us make a lot of sacrifices (professional, social like visiting friends and having parties etc.) in our personal lives.

So once again, it boils down to one simple thing - what are your priorities - your job and well being, or your family values/responsibility towards your parents/elders! ONLY YOU CAN DECIDE - and do not try to take advice of anyone else.

Chandresh

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Chandresh

Advice is free – lessons I charge for!!

It's true, we have to realise our responsibilites and duties, no other one can suggest and guide in this way.

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Rabyte

Osho Bhai,

I did'nt understand what you were trying to communicate.



Ayaskant.


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It's true, we have to realise our responsibilites and duties, no other one can suggest and guide in this way.

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To appreciate beauty, to find the best in others;
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It is true. Only one can set his prioritis. I may also go back to India once, I get citizenship. Today I complete 3 yrs.

In late Feb this year I lost my mother. How unfortunate I was, I could not go to see her in her last days due to one or more problems. These things kill somewhere inside. Kids never realize family values, the essence of relationships unless they live with those values.

Depending on situation, it could be a right move.

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Hi guys,
Lets not forget some simple words of wisdom.......

Kabhi kisi ko mukkammal jahaan nahi milta,
kabhi zameen kabhi aasmaan nahi milta.......

While venturing into something new we always tend to justify the situation by saying that "To get something we got to lose something" but irony of the fate is that once we get all those things we set out for, we realise that it was not worth losing all those things for......

Well thats human.....

and God's weird sense of humour (if you know what I mean!!!! ).......

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Cheers,
JSethi