How many non desi friends do you have ?
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Posted on: 15-09-15 12:05:56
I think in general you will be very friendly with goras and they will be also be very friendly with you, but you won't necessarily be friends. It will be a more superficial & shallow type of friendliness, not really anything deep & meaningful. At the end of the day, you can do without them and they can also without you.
Being friendly and actually being friends are 2 totally different things. So you will keep a safe distance from each other & the attitude will be, I am here to be friendly with you, but we are NOT necessarily friends.
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Does the second generation fare any better? In terms of integrating with the goras.
Not much I belive, unless one is completely transformed culturally and mentally, but even after that it is very to find.
They may have few so called friends during college days - for common projects, partying, being a room-mat and others, but if you think about someone being a lifelong friend, a very few would have those.
Inter-racial marriages are a different story and worth another thread!
All my cousins born and raised here have a 100% desi friend circle. Doesn't matter if they went to a Med school in States. They completely confined themselves to the Desi crowd. When I asked them, surprisingly their response was similar to what we are discussing here - they simply couldn't relate to the different lifestyle, i.e. marriages, family bonding, music (yes, some of them do listen to the Bollywood), food (Masala Bar-be-que), etc. Even the ones that truly transformed themselves to the North American lifestyle have 100% desi friends.
I am reminded here of Lord Mountbatten who gave the following explanation for the division of the Indian subcontinent into India & Pakistan ...
'Despite living together for centuries , both communities have different religious and cultural values , eating & living habits and hence do not integrate fully '
Which I am sure is present of India today as well .... Where huge cultural dissimilarities exist , it is difficult to homogenize.
We are diverting this discussion to goras but what about non desi non goras ... Chinese , Somalians , Middle Easterners ?? Its the same story ...
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Fido.
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Now Modiji took charge - he want change this all nonsense- but see so many India haters hate him for that .
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but what about non desi non goras ... Chinese , Somalians , Middle Easterners ?? Its the same story ...
The same story there as well. In my office, South Indians have lunch and mingle among themselves - nothing to do with Northies (and vice-a-versa). We, North Indians have a company with Pakistanis than the Southerners, due to the language, food, and cultural similarities.
That unique situation is your lack of understanding or ability towards it
Cultural similarities are relative ...
In an alien land , even enemies would appear to be friends due to similar culture ...
Just an observation , nothing else
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Fido.
Dude ,
That is your convoluted thinking
Go to a forlorn country where you don't have any of your own country people ... say some forlorn Russian or Chinese city ...
And there imagine that among your colleagues , the only person you find from the sub continent is a man from Pakistan ...... and then I bet you will eat your own words ....
Been there , done that .... When I was in Qatar , there used to be this Paki colleague and we used to hang out together .... very well ... despite the fact that he was a Muslim , his cultural similarity to Arabs was much less v/s me....
But forget it , you would not be able to understand it .. Save what you have
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Fido.
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