TK,
Do humanity a favor
In case you are looking around for a girl for your friend's son, tell the girl and her kins all truth including the love affair and then go from there ..
OR
tell your selfish hypocrite friend not to play around with some innocent Indian bride as well as two other Canadian lives, just to keep his pride and respect for his trifling culture.
If I 'll be you , I 'll rather persuade your good friend and show him reality of life.
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Originally posted by tamilkuravan
Not sure if CD is mature enough to handle this but here goes (Moderators are free to delete this/ lock this, if postings go overboard)
Yesterday, a friend of mine called me from Cambridge and asked me to help him find a bride for his son from Tamil Nadu (Incidentally he is from Chinna salem in TN). His son came to Canada when he was 10 years old (in 2003) and is now 22. He told me that his son was loving some white Canadian and that he did not like it. I asked him, why not. If he loves the Girl and being in Canada, why donot you accept the proposal. This is the reply that I got :
1. Cultures will not match. Though Canadians (white) are quite truthful, their situations are sometimes very complicated. For example, as Desi's we are carefree but these white Canaidans, fret about small things like, he did not respect me at a get together, my mother in law is not talking to me etc.. He cites Toronto Star Ellie messages as his source.
2. Though marriage (desi) is two bodies become 1 after marriage, for white Canadians, marriage is almost like 2 corporations coming together to save money by living under a single roof. The bonding will not be there. Expenses are equally divided. The lady will look after her side of the family and the Gents is expected to look at his side of the family.
Do CD's agree with me on this? What are your observations?
Murali
Give your friend a dose of reality by educating him about the current state of divorce, er, marriage in India amongst the upper middle class people.
Even the govt. is scared of releasing the real numbers. India is getting close to west in that regard(wrt middle & upper classes), and the laws are insanely loaded against men over there. So, caveat emptor.
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Originally posted by Fido
Funny thing I recall here ... When I watched Mughal e Azam in my teens , I found Saleem' point of view to be correct .
When I watched it 25 years later , I found Akbar's point of view to be more correct ...
Nothing changed in the movie ... I just evolved in my perspective..
Good point, Fido. It is one thing to be a strapping young guy going after Aunties..its another thing when you are the Uncle with wife in tow. :-)
Same analogy when the street Romeo turns into the loving, doting father of a girl warding away the street romeos.
Location: Brampton, Ont, Canada
Posted on: 14-08-15 09:23:26
Chanakya Quotes:
A man must give particularly careful consideration to marriage, for any decision taken in haste can ruin his life forever. He must always marry into a family which enjoys an equal status in society. A girl may have no illustrious lineage, then he must not hesitate to marry her, for beauty is merely skin deep. But even if a girl is a ravishing beauty, if she belong to a unworthy family, he must not accept her as his wife!
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