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Originally posted by geetakhanna

Your father passed away less than 2 weeks ago, TK.

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I guess Mr. Kuravan got divorced.

Originally Posted by desiindia
Hello RFD'iars :
Would like some objective answers to my story.

Introduction : Husband (me) and wife of 11 years. Have 2 small children (ages approx. 3 and 6). Have some issues with my wife for the past 1 year. All are Canadian citizens. Children were born in Canada. Currently located in a country in Asia where I work in a senior position. Spouse, though was in a top post in Canada, is currently not working due to the fact that she says that she has to take care of the kids.

Content : There is a situation where I think that my best option would be to separate from my wife. My wife is looking to squeeze as much money as possible from me. So in this case, I was wondering, if I should just leave her and go to another country/ another city. I might just say that I am no longer interested in living with her due to specific reasons (some email proof is there but not any well documented proof). Kids will be with my spouse.

So in this case, will I entitled to pay child support payments? If so, will it be the same amount as it would be, if it was a divorce?

Thank you for your answers in advance.

Desi India

P.S.-> Since I was banned temporarily the last time, I would like to keep the discussion as objectively as possible.


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Originally Posted by desiindia
RFD'ers,
Just before starting my post, let me state that I have Sri Lankan/Indian origin but a Canadian passport.
I have a question about how spouse in Canada share their salaries / savings / inheritance.

In Sri Lanka/India :

Option 1 - Husband earning and wife a housewife. -

In this senario, the husband keeps all of his salary in his account. If the couple have very good understanding, they may operate a joint bank account but the wife will have to inform and get the approval of the husband before she uses any money. If the wife gets an inheritance, then generally, they will put it in either a joint account / wife's name or in the children's name.

Option 2 - Husband and wife working and earning. -

In this case, the wife will give all her salary to her husband and wife's salary will be a joint account. The husband may allow his wife to take a part of her salary (fixed amount) for her expenses - say for buying dresses, giving to wife's parents etc... Husband controls all the finances.

Though I was in Canada for 10 years, I did not have the oppertunity to interact personally with Canada born and brought up Canadians. However upon reading the Ellie column in The Star for a couple of years, I am given to understand the following :

Option 1 - Husband earning and wife a housewife. -

Nothing known / learnt but I would assume the husband pays for everything for the family and also give the wife a fixed amount a month for her personal enjoyment (ladies day out etc..)

Option 2 - Husband and wife working and earning. -

Husband and wife contribute for expenses in a joint account (rent/mortgage, food, recreation/ bills). This may be in relation to the amount of money earnt. The reminder of the money is kept in a separate account by both their parties.

Question - Can RFD'ers tell if this is how Canadians live in Canada?

Desi India


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Wife threatening me
Guys,
Been associated with Redflagdeals since 2009. However my previous Id. has been misplaced and hence had to take a new one.
I am a Canadian citizen and so is my wife. However since some years, we are living in a south Asian country. We have two small children going to school.
Our relationship detoritated the moment we left Canada. My wife refused to work since she came here and said that she will be taking care of the kids. However, during their school time, she got associated with religion, always watching the second coming channels, reading second coming news on the internet. Besides her parents have sort of spoilt her mind.

Generally South Asian parents of the girls spend a lot for their daughters. In this case, they have never spent a penny. They conducted my wife's marriage with the money that earnt. I have never seen misers like this.
She hates my parents. Once when they came to visit us (2 years back), she tried to induce a fight between her and my father. However, my father saw through it and said that they will never come to visit us again.
We have frequent arguments. Always she starts first and insults my parents. I wait patiently but she never stops. So I get angry and should back at her saying that her father is a miser and the argument grows.

Two times, she has run to the balcony and shouted that I am beating her (though I was not). One time, the neighbour saw it but fortunately he did not report to the police.

One time I tried to record her rant and once she saw me switching on my cell phone, she started shouting that I was beating her.

I called her parents many times, but they will not pick up my phone call. Her elder sister faced the same problem but her elder sister's husband was a spend thrift. They had to bail him out with $ 50,000. I am guessing that they prefer that they keep quiet and let their daughter do their job instead of them pitching in. I have e-mailed to her father about the situation but got no reply. At least I have documented the events.

The solution is very simple. I can just walk away from my wife. However, I love my children and don't want to them to face any hardships. However it is increasingly becoming very hard to stay at peace in the house.

Also from 2009, our sex life has been almost nil. I have to initiate sex. She seldom responds. The fight between my wife and my parents occurred in Nov. 2011. Even after that I was allowing her parents to visit the house. However I put an end to that in Sept 2012 after an incident.

As said before, I can walk away but still seeing if a second chance is possible. She also does not want to talk this out in a calm way. In the past, whenever we have tried to talk (my proposal was to leave our parents out and lead a husband-wife-children life) but has always resulted in insults and fights. She is hell bent on watching religious channels, praying etc...

Any ideas on the way forward by RFD'ians?

Desi In India


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i have to admit that monica.admin is so right, this person really needs medical help. Mr.Kuruvan if you dont mind please seeks medical help, do not waste others time, if possible admins should ban him from posting anything anymore, that would be best thing to do for all the desis here,
he has been spreading negative message all along,
god bless desis!!!

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Originally posted by geetakhanna

Your father passed away less than 2 weeks ago, TK.

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2 weeks is a long time. Read post #4 in here -> http://canadiandesi.com/read.php?TID=35164&page=1#212739

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Looks like someone hacked into TK's account (or TK's mind??)
And now there is opposite clone of TK named Kuravan Tamil (KT) attacking TK...

If this continues then I am not sure if these guys will need help, but I sure will..
Aw man, it is all this site's fault First AshedFC, then VM now TK..there are couple more on the verge of emotional collapse but one could get better as Kangress routed out and other could get into depression as AAP got routed out too
Seems like casualties of too much time on CD.
GG Get team of lawyers ready...

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I know that I can get married and have kids / adopt kids but then I wish to know my options of leading a single life till death.

Murali Krishna.

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Originally posted by mani_flowers

i have to admit that monica.admin is so right, this person really needs medical help. Mr.Kuruvan if you dont mind please seeks medical help, do not waste others time, if possible admins should ban him from posting anything anymore, that would be best thing to do for all the desis here,
he has been spreading negative message all along,
god bless desis!!!

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