want to send my 5yr old for study in india
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Posted on: 02-03-07 13:04:23
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Originally posted by Big Vee
I suggest to those that are thinking of sending their kids away for a \\\"better\\\" education to think about the child's best interest. A child at that tender age NEEDS his/her parents. And I do not care who you have taking care of the child in India, it can never ever replace the connection with a parent. The worst part is you are sending the child away when they need the parent. Sending them away after grade 10 is infinitely better - actually they may want to get away at that point - but sending them away in their formative years is CHILD ABUSE! It is not called FORMATIVE years for nothing.
Looking at this strategically, why would you want to do this sort of thing? What benefits do you expect to gain from this move? In the end, your child will be in university along side a kid who went through the local system. I dare say the local child will have a better handle on what the professor wants in terms of papers etc, while your child (brilliant in spelling, correct sentence construction and multiplication) may not be able to articulate the solution to a problem. I say this because I went through this issue myself. Remember the education system is not called a system for nothing. It is a chain of curricula from Grade 1 to Undergraduate. Breaking one chain and joining another chain is difficult.
Oh and I love the \\\"real\\\" world experience. There is a fish in this tank pointing to another tank and saying \\\"that\\\" is the real world. Dare I ask what interaction are you looking for for your child?? And your solution is to send your child half way around the world?? Parents everywhere are protective - except those who were shunned in their formative ages (I won't say who they are, but they write among us). If your child needs help in \\\"mingling\\\", then sending them away will not help that. I dare say it may make them withdraw even more.
Finally, if this has not convinced you to reconsider - let me say this - YOU ARE BEING SELFISH. If it is important, vital, imperative your child get this experience or education, then go with them! Put your money where your mouth is and go with them! Unless of course, your \\\"real world\\\" experience or education is - nothing is more important that money! Let us see some intestinal fortitude to stand for what you think is right.
BV
Bravo Big vee,
One could not have said it any better.
Like most of us here, i am a product of india's brilliant education. I passed my B.Tech(called B.S here) with flying colors.
But, when i came to USA to do my masters, i was in for a rude shock. The undergraduate american kids could do projects easily and effortessly. My theoritical knowledge took me to the bottom of the class that semester.
It was even more shocking to see many of other indian students copying homeworks from each other to cope up with the assignments given by the professors
I strongly believe that the education system in N.America is geared towards teaching the practical aspects of tackling a task at hand. whereas we know theoritically how to solve that task.
would you take your broken down car to a mechanic or a automobile engineer?
Coming back to sending your kid to india, please put yourself in the shoes of that kid and imagine yourself alone in a country when your parents are 10,000 miles away
. would it make you feel blessed?Your parents did not do this to you..Don't do this to your kid!
sincerely
seenappa
Check my posting http://www.canadiandesi.ca/read.php?TID=16648 for schools in India
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You know you are a desi when ........ You spew forth the virtues of India, but don't want to live there...............You've never had a tanning salon membership
wow! Separating a kindergartener from his/her parents. How exactly does one plan to make the 5yr old child understand why you want to do this anyway? A good part of a childs education on how to interact 'in the real world' comes from the example set by the parents.
Even when children live with their parents the bond is strained as the children get more independent. What are the chances of a strong bond when the child is sent away at such an age?
Fast forward 15 yrs...you go back to india , or the child joins you here...what is your relationship going to be like? Do you expect any emotional involvement with each other? What are the chances that the involvment is more than that child has seen you put in. Maybe the child will reciprocate by putting you in an oldage home (not that its a bad thing but I'm just making a point) for your 'own comfort' 
like you did for his/her education.
I agree with bigvee...if you feel the education is India is better for your kids, perhaps you are right. However, you may want to go along with them.
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Hi AT,
I am currently in the education field in India and am with a school which has around 45-50% of its students separated from their parents for various reasons, including the one you wrote about.
In three words --don't do it. Even if you send your child to live with your very dear sister/brother, don't do it. It doesn't work for the child, psychologically.
If it is your child's level of Maths/ Physics (later) that you want to improve, simply buy the specific level book (as recommended by CBSE/ ICSE) when you are in India and ENSURE that your child does the numericals at home from those books. The ex-Canada students who are in my school tell me that there isn't too much "written home-work" given by Canadian schools anyway, so finding the time to do the numericals shouldn't be a problem.
If you like, I can send you the names of the books (we use different publishers for Grades1-4, 6-8, 9and 10) that are currently being followed in our school (don't worry about the standard of the books we use -- our school's CBSE results are phenomenal)
thanks for the replies..............
i had wrongly framed the question......from a point that my child was going alone to india for basic education.
but the thruth is that we all will be going back and not my son alone.
once he completes grade 10th or 12th then if he says that he wants to study abroad for higher studies , then we might come back.(its only his wish)
we spoke to some schools in mumbai and also with ambani school at the same time,they all said the same thing that he wont be going to sr kg ...he has to start again with jk.
so our question is that is our basic education better than the canadian basic education?
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so our question is that is our basic education better than the canadian basic education?
It depends on what you mean by education. The emphasis on india is on written, math skills etc. Here it is more on the social development of the child.
To me both approaches are education...I prefer emphasis on the latter at a younger age.
e.g1: In canada..an emphasis on the kindergartener(@5yrs) liking to come to school, making friendships, negotiating and setting boundaries regarding personal space etc. In India a parent would be quite aghast if the child did not learn abcs and 1,2,3's in kg.
e.g2: An average 3rd(@9yrs) grader in India does not get the opportunity to do/research projects and make presentations in class(at least I never did) on a regular basis.
A good school in India will probably overcome these deficiencies.
At the same time if you have an academically above average student...the student may not be adequately challenged in math, science, written skills etc at the elementary school level in Canada.
Parental involvement can overcome these deficiencies here..eg: a friend gets math books from India to challenge his daughter.
I have a child in kg and one in 3rd grade in a public school...the above information is derived from their experiences and that of their friends and parents.
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Hi All,
Nice points that you have brought up.
I would like to point out that things in India have changed education-wise. In my daughter's school (she is in 3rd grade) they have to do research projects, make presentations in the class and in front of the school, public speaking, talent display, etc.
Schools in the West tend to place more emphasis on communication skills. I think they tend to lag behind in math, etc.
I am against the concept of sending small kids to India or for that matter residential schools away from home alone for their education. I have found such kids tend to become aloof from their family.
I, for one, have been among the few who have returned back to India and one of the reasons was the primary education of kids and wanting them to grow up in a big family.
Rgds.
Rajan.
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