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Location: British Columbia
Posted on: 15-02-06 16:40:20
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Orginally posted by tamilkuravan
Hi all!
Donot compare movies with real life. It does not work that way. My relatives and her grand parents will take care of my daughter. So they will control her moment. Even in canada she can get spoilt. But in India her chances will be lesser for the better.
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Do you think relatives and others can give the same upbringing that parents can?
Stop blaming Canada..for what I clearly see ..as your inability to be a good parent !! YES IM angry.
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~ Morning rain
Location: British Columbia
Posted on: 15-02-06 16:44:26
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Orginally posted by tamilkuravan
And charlie : There are virtually NO or very negligible child molestors in India . That is a fact. Yes. There is an occasional Auto driver who rapes a child but that percentage is almost negligibe. How many child abuse have you heard in india from relatives? for me it is ALMOST NONE. if you have stats. to back it up, then please do.
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I hate to tell you - but most rapes/molestations occur within the family..and the reasons they do is becuase generally the perpetrator knows the victim will keep quiet. In Indian society there is pressure to keep it quiet..even a rape victim who goes to Court (and that too in North america) will have a difficult time proving their innocence.
So therefore 1) there will likely not be hard stats on rape and incest victims
2) There is a culture of quiet and shame not to let others know one has been molested
3) I know women personally that were molested when they went back to India to stay with relatives.by male relatives... Only in India. It does happen here..but guess what..it also happens in India
Please open your eyes to reality ..and not the fantasy you want to live in.
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Location: British Columbia
Posted on: 15-02-06 16:45:45
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Orginally posted by rahul_singh23
I am also a father of 15 months old son. This is my personal view:
If you can not take care your kids then don’t give them birth. It's your responsibility to take care/give them good education/seeing them growing everyday/giving answers of all good and bad questions.
Giving kids to grandparents and sending money from here does not mean you are taking care of them nicely.
Put yourself in the shoe of that kid. If I am that place then I don’t care shit about my parents who is sitting abroad and counting $$. I don’t need $$ parents, I need time/your touch of my parents.
One small lession:
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One guy was working very hard and making 200$/hr. But he comes around 8-9pm back to home. Till that time his kid got sleep. One day kid asked dad can you come tomorrow for dinner early at 6pm so we can sit and talk. You can see how good I play guitar. Dad said you don’t know how much money I make and how much I work hard. Kid asked how much "Dad said 200$/hr".
After 2 months kid gave 200$ to his dad and said "Dad can I buy your 1 hr at evening". That money I saved from my pocket money.
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Kudos.. I agree with your view. IT is the parents job to raise their child. Otherwise dont have them.
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~ Morning rain
Location: God's own country
Posted on: 15-02-06 16:58:07
MR,
As i said, this is MY View. I am afraid of responding to your answers on this forum (though i have answers) for the fear that the moderators may not like them. I will PM you the answers tonight. I also leave the board free for discussion.
Thanks- TK
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I am a Gents and not a Ladies.
Location: Western Hemisphere
Posted on: 15-02-06 17:12:45
TK,
While I respect your perspective, I do not agree with any of your points. One issue I have is your blanket stereotyping of the so-called Canadian and Indian "values". Maybe, you have your private reasons and personal experiences behind your argument. I do not need to know about that.
I am a first generation immigrant who grew up in India for 21 years and obviously have lived and breathed in both countries.
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Dimple2001
We are expressing our views only. I dont see any need to get angry. We r grown up adults.
DIO
Location: God's own country
Posted on: 15-02-06 17:28:05
Dimple :
Please donot think that have i generalised or stereotyped Canadians.
What i merely said was that FOR ME personally, i prefer to bring up my daughter IN INDIA after the age of 10 years owing to the reasons that i have concluded based on my experience. I have specifically said that this is my opinion only. I prefer not to raise my daughter in Canada after the age of 10 till around 22 years. Please donot take it personally.
Dimple : I was just telling charlie my opinion based on his quote :
Charlie's Quote open :
TK ...lets talk of facts.....child sexual abuse is from close relatives...uncle/aunts ....etc. I am not blaming your relatives but.....that is what figure have to tells...."You want to guard you child from all adversity of life" Correct. Parents are the best gaurdian of a child. It is your choice at the end of the day.
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I am sorry if i over did it or if i have offended anyone.
TK
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